Hey waiter, could you make mine a double?

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Lots of questions in the comments section and personal emails about why I do certain things. I know that many of you will not agree with us about how we are handling things but really, that's for us to gauge and determine how to handle it.

1) We have given her 5 1/2 days of just about whatever she's wanted, whenever she has wanted it. Up, down, in stroller out of stroller, in crib out of crib. With a blanket without a blanket. Shoes on shoes off. Bottle no bottle. Baby doll no baby doll. Screaming fits, throwing things, kicking, screaming, slapping etc. Crap, on Friday she wanted NOTHING to do with us at all and she preferred her crib ALL day. And ya know what. we let it go and just hung out in the room. Syd in her crib, us watching more subtitles than we thought possible.

2) I am a structure girl a.k.a CONTROL FREAK.....but I have had to relinquish some of that control and it's been pretty dadgum difficult but I'm getting better. We feel that while yes, she is grieving and adjusting, there are certain things that are just not acceptable from the get-go. The sooner we set a precident on that, the better off we all are. You might not agree with that idea but it's not for you to decide.

3) The shoes WERE back on and then she REFUSED to get back in her stroller. Didn't want me, didn't want Dad, didn't want the stroller, didn't want the bed. So we had a SCREAMING TANTRUM for 30 minutes. No idea that something that simple would set her off. It's what we've been doing after we come in from being out. Then we play in the floor or color. Who knew?

There is SO much more that we've dealt with in the past week. Precisely why I haven't blogged. Don't have the energy to rehash it! Please remember, if you have brought home children that were MUCH older than you anticipated, what you went through(maybe even still go through) as you try to introduce them into a new world. I've turned off the comment moderation......I don't need the criticism.

BUT a big thanks to those that supported us in what we're doing and why we've decided to do it that way.......

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Oh my gosh! We had an all out, 30 minute TANTRUM.........why you might ask?

BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T WANT TO BE OUT OF HER STROLLER!!!! AND SHE WANTED HER SHOES ON!!!

Ever heard a little girl scream just to be screaming? That's why she screams..... this time for a FULL 30 minutes. When she is getting her way, she is peachy keen and sun is shining! Giving out hugs and kisses, happy as a lark. When she gets told no or things don't go exactly like she wants.... watch out!!! Syd screamed until she was soaked in sweat, and beet red. The minute we had more than plenty and put her in her bed, she turned it off IMMEDIATELY!!! She makes Luke's tantrums look like a beginner!!! This little sister is going to have to get over these little "spells".

I have never, in my entire adult life, seen a child able to scream that loud, for that long, without so much as a lull like that "on demand" and turn it off just as quickly! Things are about to be a-changing!!!