Well, it's been 3 days. Sydney doesn't have much use for me but she's bonded well to Alan. Not an easy pill to swallow but atleast she likes one of us. We went to the central market yesterday. It was pretty awesome. Not enough hands to take many pics. We also got to see the "original" map of the layout of GUATEMALA. WAY COOL!! We'll post pics of that later. We're just hanging out today. Not much planned. Tomorrow is her birthday. Not sure what we're doing for that.
I miss my boys like crazy and I am ready to come home. Please just keep us in your prayers. I desperately need something to click with her to begin the bonding process.
HUGS AND LOVE FOR NOW.................
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Praying indeed for that 'click' for her to bond with you, and for all of you in general.
Hi sweet friend. This verse comes to mind..."Love is patient, love is kind" Just keep loving on her and in time I just know she will think her mommy rocks! And remember this post so that you can encourage me if this happens to us when we go to China :)
I know it was so hard for me, because Caleb wanted NOTHING to do with me for the first few months. I'm not kidding, months. After the first few weeks he would tolerate me, but he definitely preferred Keith. Fast forward 9 months and he is definitely a momma's boy. Although he still says he's "Daddy's Chico Bueno", we all know he's MINE! :)
TRY to be patient. She will transfer her trust and love to you in due time. It is just hard to be in that "betweentime". HUGS!
Kris
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Since she already has bond with Daddy. Why don't you be the one to offer her all the fun stuff for a day or two. Give her her juice/bottle, her favorite toy, play ball, her treat - whatever you can think of that might get you points.
I know she doesn't like a bath but what about filling up the sink, tub or even a clean garbage can with water and let her play with some toys in it. So what if it makes a little mess. I know she has plenty of clothes.
Ask Daddy to make some paper airplanes and fly them all over the room. Let her brush your hair, have a pillow fight. Just don't get thrown out of the place!!!
I'm sure you've probably already tried most of this. I was in a brainstorming mood - do you remember me telling you about how you did that to me one time? If she does it to me.........I know I'll be sad too.
I miss y'all and I can't WAIT FOR YOU 3 TO BE HOME!!!!
The boys are doing great....
Love,
Mom
I'm praying for the bonding to happen for you as well. I like the suggestions your mother offered. I guess you are the one that kept visiting and then leaving (not that any of that was your fault, just circumstances, so don't beat yourself up over that). Now I guess she's wondering when you'll leave again. "This fun man didn't leave me (that I could remember) so he's pretty cool, I'll stick with him." She'll come around, maye even sooner once she sees the boys lovin' on you, trusting you, etc. God can move this mountain.
Be patient, its fantastic that she is bonding with her Daddy, let that happen and in time you too. Like another poster said it can take months and months. What's most important is that she bonds to someone. Just wait until she meets her big brothers! That will really help, I know it did with our little girl. I'd actually suggest not trying so hard, just be you.
Another Mom
Kristi, I'm so happy to see that you are down there picking up your sweet baby girl! Have a fun time on her birthday tomorrow. No matter what you end up doing...it will be special. Our prayers are with you all as you go through this bonding process.
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