Figuring out what to do next
10/28 3:30pm UPDATE:
Lawyer just emailed and says the courier has the birth certificates. Power was on today and she went immediately to the CR before it had time to go back out. Now, that's their story. I know it's bigger than that because Sayaxche is NOT that easy to deal with on adoption BC's!!! Thank you GOD!!!!
Here's the new prayer focus: Pray that the courier gets back safely. Lawyer has assured us that she will drive all night to get back to the city, she's already on her way to the city with our documents! We could have a passport by Friday and 2nd DNA by early next week........that's our prayer anway!!
Here's the new prayer focus: Pray that the courier gets back safely. Lawyer has assured us that she will drive all night to get back to the city, she's already on her way to the city with our documents! We could have a passport by Friday and 2nd DNA by early next week........that's our prayer anway!!
PLEASE LET MY BABY BE HOME FOR HER BIRTHDAY!!!
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Dare I ask...What else can happen? I mean really, what else can happen? Hasn't it all happened? How long till the power is restored? How long before she will come home? How much longer do we have to wait? When will it be our turn? What do we do now to move this along?
We are torn between sitting here.....waiting on things to develop or proceed. Wondering if we need to start making plans to head on down and try to start forming a relationship with our daughter. The part that tears me us up in all this is ---- we have 2 boys at home that need us too. Fortunately, my parents support us in whatever decision we make. They've even gone so far as to say that they'll just come stay at our house if we go.
Now, the question is ........ Do we go and when?
10 comments:
I would have gone long ago; seems from all the other blogs if you go, you are able to move things along and your agency is one of the worst, so it can't hurt to go. The only real problem now is the power outtage and that appears to be true, so maybe wait out this storm and then go? I know if you go, the USE will expidite your apt., but those have been coming fast so no big whoop. I do however, think giving Syd some bonding time, time with you and still at home with Viv would help her tremendously, go slow with it, an hour here and hour with Viv, no overnights at first, ease her into it. She is at the worst possible age for this break, so all you do now to help ease it will be a benefit to your whole family. Good luck in this hard decision.
Hugs, Kristi! I hope that she gets to come soon and that the power is restored today!
I would also be torn both ways. It's awesome that your parents support you and your family and want to help out. I say go with what your heart tells you.
Dear Anon -- thanks for your insight. As you may know, I have 2 other kids and don't have the luxury of just going down there. I tried that in the spring and found out the country was shutting down. I had to come back and I am glad I did--- here we are almost 7 months later and we're still waiting.
Also, knowing what I know about my daughter, the easing into it won't work because of her attachment to my fostermom. It will be far worse to go back and forth. Having a another toddler at home, I already KNOW what this age is like but unfortunately, life isn't always easy. We are however ready to deal with what we are going to be facing.
We're going to make it and we'll all be stronger people because of it. Just keep us in your prayers.
Dear Anon -- thanks for your insight. As you may know, I have 2 other kids and don't have the luxury of just going down there. I tried that in the spring and found out the country was shutting down. I had to come back and I am glad I did--- here we are almost 7 months later and we're still waiting.
Also, knowing what I know about my daughter, the easing into it won't work because of her attachment to my fostermom. It will be far worse to go back and forth. Having a another toddler at home, I already KNOW what this age is like but unfortunately, life isn't always easy. We are however ready to deal with what we are going to be facing.
We're going to make it and we'll all be stronger people because of it. Just keep us in your prayers.
Hi Kristi,
I definitely don't want to be in your shoes. You are at a very difficult fork in the road. If it were me, I would go, but then I don't have two other children at home. However, if your agency is telling you the truth and the paperwork is ready, then all you are waiting on is the power to come on. I know someone at the embassy to help you get an even faster expedited appointment when you need one. I would hate to guess, but maybe you would be looking at 3 weeks of being down there? Your foster mom could even help you transition like one of the other comments said. I just think it's important for Sydney to be with you and get to know you as mom. It's so hard for me to say??... I have committed to praying for you and will continue to pray for you. Let me know if you want the number. Hang in there, and hopefully the "lights" will come on soon.
Yeah, she should be home in November! Yahoooooooooooo!
Kristi,
You are so close. She has been in very good hands from all you say all this time. There is no guarantee you being there would speed things up---as evidenced by some of the other blogs I read. Who knows what would or would not have helped. You felt God was telling you to come home 7 months ago. Don't second guess yourself because of what someone else said (not that I am saying that person means to upset you, but you are the only one that could have made that decision.) As for when to go down...I have no idea... but when the passport has been done and you are orange and they actually take the DNA and you know it is on the way FOR SURE. That's when I would go. However, I can also see where i would go as soon as you get the bc, because I couldn't stand it. I am concerned your CRAZY agency will mess around with getting the DNA or passport and then you will be stuck. However, you would be stuck with your baby girl---not a bad thing, and probably not for a long time. We picked up our daughter a day before her first b-day, and we came a bit early just to be with her on that day. However, that's when the appt's at the embassy were so far out, so we still already had the date. Have you also considered staying a few days extra for you and your husband to bond with Sydney. If you do decided to wait a bit longer, that might be another option....if you have that option. I am getting so excited and nervous for you. I know you are up to the challenge as hard as the transition may be. I am praying for you as you make these decisions about when to go. I am praying you will have her on her b-day, but if not you will be with her soon no matter what!
I hope she is home soon--I've been following your long journey for quite a while. She is a beautiful little girl who needs to be with her forever family.
take care
Hi Kristi. You don't know me,but I have been following your blog for a long time (arabellas mom from guatadopt)and am so glad that you are finally close to the end of this long journey to bring Sydney home. I brought my Guatemalan princess home on August 1st. If I were in your shoes, which I can't understand fully because I don't have other children at home, I would go down as soon as possible after the second DNA was taken. The only caution I will give you with this is that it was 3 weeks after the DNA draw before our embassy appointment. Sometimes the labs wait to bundle the samples together to save on shipping before they send them to the U.S.; that's what happened in our case. It took the DNA a week to get to LabCorp. Some companies let you expedite the time to get results; I don't know if this is an option with the lab you will be using. USE did move our appointment up one day when we called and requested a sooner appointment. So, it all depends on how long you can take off from work and can afford right now. Regardless, perhaps you and your husband can be with Sydney on her birthday. Hopefully it will be at home with your other family. If not, at least you won't be forced to miss this milestone. Then the rest of the family can have a celebration (belated if need be) when you get home. Some of the b&b's have inexpensive rates compared to the hotels for weekly stays; we always stayed at Casa de Luna and loved it. Maybe you can go on down as soon as you can and your husband can join you as soon as he can after that (closer to the embassy appointment)if you all need to do it that way for affordability. I will keep praying for you that the passport and 2nd DNA happen in record speed!
Blessings,
Tonya
P.S. Arabella loves the music on your blog and always dances when I click on your blog to read it.
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